James, you either need a complete style such as Ju Jitsu, Krav Maga or Jeet Kune Do or you need to mix and match from various styles. I would recommend Ju Jitsu for grappling and Muay Thai for striking. Krav Maga if you are looking for real self defence (inc weapons) for real situations. No art is any better than any other, but it is important to know what you want and then find the art that fits you.

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